Comments for divorcebin.com http://divorcebin.com Sun, 20 May 2012 05:29:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by Lazzz http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-572 Lazzz Sun, 20 May 2012 05:29:37 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-572 I am a child of a divorce - divorce happend when I was 6. My parents fought over me and used me as a pawn, there was a custody battle when I was 14. The entire environment was awful. Best thing that happened to me was to go to college and get away from that situation. Now many years later (I'm 33), my parents still hate each other ! (Is that just angry love, hmmmm).... I think necessary divorce is okay but please, for your childrens sake, ensure you have a very good relationship with your ex. Which does not hurt your children. Just because you get divorced doesnt mean you stop talking to your ex, you need to communicate and work out the best, least disruptive, most stable situation for your children. I am a child of a divorce – divorce happend when I was 6. My parents fought over me and used me as a pawn, there was a custody battle when I was 14. The entire environment was awful. Best thing that happened to me was to go to college and get away from that situation. Now many years later (I’m 33), my parents still hate each other ! (Is that just angry love, hmmmm)…. I think necessary divorce is okay but please, for your childrens sake, ensure you have a very good relationship with your ex. Which does not hurt your children. Just because you get divorced doesnt mean you stop talking to your ex, you need to communicate and work out the best, least disruptive, most stable situation for your children.

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by rebelroserose http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-571 rebelroserose Sun, 20 May 2012 05:17:23 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-571 my parents were divorced when i was 9. any memories i have of them together is bad. they argued all the time. my dad got drunk and scared me by driving fast with us in the car. to this day i am afraid of any hint of speeding if im in the car with someone else driving. my mom remarried when i was 11 and i had a wonderful stepdad who treated me as if i was his own up until he died,so in my case yes it was in the best interest of the child involved.I am a well-adjusted adult and very happy in life.don't stay in an unhappy marriage just to please someone else. why should you be miserable? my parents were divorced when i was 9. any memories i have of them together is bad. they argued all the time. my dad got drunk and scared me by driving fast with us in the car. to this day i am afraid of any hint of speeding if im in the car with someone else driving. my mom remarried when i was 11 and i had a wonderful stepdad who treated me as if i was his own up until he died,so in my case yes it was in the best interest of the child involved.I am a well-adjusted adult and very happy in life.don’t stay in an unhappy marriage just to please someone else. why should you be miserable?

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by forty-two http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-570 forty-two Sun, 20 May 2012 05:11:23 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-570 This is a great question! I am no a child of divorce. My wife sort-of is. Her mother died when she was 12, her dad has remarried (and been divorced) twice since then. The first was when she was in college, the second only 3 years later. Anyway, she's all messed up. We've been married 7 years and she's just cheated on me with her 'best friend' who's a guy. I think she is a decent mother, attentive, but easily angered. She has a lot of depression issues, anger issues, and she's an adulteress. I've decided to stay and give her a chance to get her life together. She's begging to stay married. Her new devotion to our marriage has been a major factor in my decision, but the other is the fear of what I'm doing to my kids. On the other hand, if I stay and she reverts to being this horrible person, am I helping or hurting my kids? Shouldn't they grow up knowing that it is ok to be happy, that they deserve it? If I'm in a terrible marriage (I hope I won't be!) then what kind of message am I sending them? Good luck, i'll be reading the answers with great interest. This is a great question!
I am no a child of divorce. My wife sort-of is. Her mother died when she was 12, her dad has remarried (and been divorced) twice since then. The first was when she was in college, the second only 3 years later.

Anyway, she’s all messed up. We’ve been married 7 years and she’s just cheated on me with her ‘best friend’ who’s a guy. I think she is a decent mother, attentive, but easily angered. She has a lot of depression issues, anger issues, and she’s an adulteress. I’ve decided to stay and give her a chance to get her life together. She’s begging to stay married. Her new devotion to our marriage has been a major factor in my decision, but the other is the fear of what I’m doing to my kids.
On the other hand, if I stay and she reverts to being this horrible person, am I helping or hurting my kids? Shouldn’t they grow up knowing that it is ok to be happy, that they deserve it? If I’m in a terrible marriage (I hope I won’t be!) then what kind of message am I sending them?

Good luck, i’ll be reading the answers with great interest.

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by Ginger Sling http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-569 Ginger Sling Sun, 20 May 2012 04:56:02 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-569 No...children never fully recover from divorce. It's a deep psychic fracture that never quite mends. I believe people should do everything humanly possible to stay together until the kids are 18. Staying together doesn't mean living together while there is physical abuse or alcoholism. It means getting the right type of help. Best of luck - not an easy situation. Really hope you are all going to church together. It really helps! No…children never fully recover from divorce. It’s a deep psychic fracture that never quite mends. I believe people should do everything humanly possible to stay together until the kids are 18. Staying together doesn’t mean living together while there is physical abuse or alcoholism. It means getting the right type of help. Best of luck – not an easy situation. Really hope you are all going to church together. It really helps!

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by thirsty4blood http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-568 thirsty4blood Sun, 20 May 2012 04:50:53 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-568 hi... my parents split up when i was 5... and i wouldn't be the same person i am if my parents didn't split up... as long as you've thought it through, do it...there's no point putting up with something or someone you can't live with anymore... it would be more damaging if you expose your children to a relationship of chaos, hate , fear and deception... you seem like someone who doesn't act on impulse, which is a good thing... it also seems like you've been putting you're own happiness on hold for your children... i think it's about time you go ahead and do something for yourself... if you think divorce is necessary, just do it... it's not being selfish... if you were being selfish, you wouldn't have went online to ask this question... you wouldn't be thinking about your children before going through with the divorce if you were selfish... there will always be people who would go against whatever decision you make... but it's your life... yours and your children's... good luck... :) hi… my parents split up when i was 5… and i wouldn’t be the same person i am if my parents didn’t split up… as long as you’ve thought it through, do it…there’s no point putting up with something or someone you can’t live with anymore… it would be more damaging if you expose your children to a relationship of chaos, hate , fear and deception…

you seem like someone who doesn’t act on impulse, which is a good thing… it also seems like you’ve been putting you’re own happiness on hold for your children… i think it’s about time you go ahead and do something for yourself… if you think divorce is necessary, just do it… it’s not being selfish… if you were being selfish, you wouldn’t have went online to ask this question… you wouldn’t be thinking about your children before going through with the divorce if you were selfish… there will always be people who would go against whatever decision you make… but it’s your life… yours and your children’s…

good luck… :)

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by Pippi http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-567 Pippi Sun, 20 May 2012 04:07:49 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-567 I am very thankful that my parents got a divorce. I was only 1 1/2 though so I wasn't effected as much as my older siblings. My older brother who was 8 at the time now resents my mother for divorcing my dad. I think my mother did the right thing, my dad was doing a lot of illegal stuff, and I think we would have been unsafe living with him. I would not be here (safe, clean, and financially stable) if my mom did not divorce my dad. Divorce is a scary thing for kids, but if you think your children will be safer, then you are doing the right thing. Note: I may not be grown up, but I think its important to hear from kids too. I am very thankful that my parents got a divorce. I was only 1 1/2 though so I wasn’t effected as much as my older siblings. My older brother who was 8 at the time now resents my mother for divorcing my dad. I think my mother did the right thing, my dad was doing a lot of illegal stuff, and I think we would have been unsafe living with him. I would not be here (safe, clean, and financially stable) if my mom did not divorce my dad.
Divorce is a scary thing for kids, but if you think your children will be safer, then you are doing the right thing.
Note:
I may not be grown up, but I think its important to hear from kids too.

]]> Comment on Is online dating a waste of time? by Cissy M http://divorcebin.com/divorce-stats/is-online-dating-a-waste-of-time/#comment-560 Cissy M Sun, 20 May 2012 03:47:35 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/divorce-stats/is-online-dating-a-waste-of-time/#comment-560 You can state in your profile that you do not want to date anyone who is overweight. The more sites you join, the better your chances of meeting someone. See http://www.webdatingguide.com for a list of good dating sites. You can state in your profile that you do not want to date anyone who is overweight. The more sites you join, the better your chances of meeting someone. See http://www.webdatingguide.com for a list of good dating sites.

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by Sonsie http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-566 Sonsie Sun, 20 May 2012 03:42:10 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-566 Dneez Girl, honey you are doing the right thing...being an adult child of a divorced couple, my mom did the same thing to protect myself and my brothers...dont let anyone ever tell you that you are wrong...look I dont say divorce is the only answer, but if you are doing it because you believe that your life and the lives of your children are at stake then, no doubt... I am a divorcee myself, and a single mom too, sweetie you need to know that being out there on your own ain't easy...but if you have faith that God will bring you through, you will be fine S. xxx Dneez Girl, honey you are doing the right thing…being an adult child of a divorced couple, my mom did the same thing to protect myself and my brothers…dont let anyone ever tell you that you are wrong…look I dont say divorce is the only answer, but if you are doing it because you believe that your life and the lives of your children are at stake then, no doubt…

I am a divorcee myself, and a single mom too, sweetie you need to know that being out there on your own ain’t easy…but if you have faith that God will bring you through, you will be fine S. xxx

]]> Comment on Any grown children of divorce out there who are thankful for/agree with it? by scarecrowdragon http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-565 scarecrowdragon Sun, 20 May 2012 03:26:07 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/effects-of-divorce-on-children/any-grown-children-of-divorce-out-there-who-are-thankful-foragree-with-it/#comment-565 well my mom left my dad when i was young he was an alcoholic and all that fun stuff. She did get remarried later and i called him dad until he left and then it was difficult but it was harder on my sisters i personally feel i'm a better man not having so much normal male influence. but that may not be true for everyone, if there is a big battle for custody or anything weird like that it could be bad-there isn't enough info to tell from what you said because factors like the childs age and what the reasons are.... if they are violent or in any way abusive it's something definitely needs to happen, if its just that the two of you aren't really connecting that may be kind of weak, and you should try to revitalize the relationship in my opinion. well my mom left my dad when i was young he was an alcoholic and all that fun stuff. She did get remarried later and i called him dad until he left and then it was difficult but it was harder on my sisters i personally feel i’m a better man not having so much normal male influence. but that may not be true for everyone, if there is a big battle for custody or anything weird like that it could be bad-there isn’t enough info to tell from what you said because factors like the childs age and what the reasons are…. if they are violent or in any way abusive it’s something definitely needs to happen, if its just that the two of you aren’t really connecting that may be kind of weak, and you should try to revitalize the relationship in my opinion.

]]> Comment on Is online dating a waste of time? by Jennifer http://divorcebin.com/divorce-stats/is-online-dating-a-waste-of-time/#comment-559 Jennifer Sun, 20 May 2012 03:13:48 +0000 http://divorcebin.com/divorce-stats/is-online-dating-a-waste-of-time/#comment-559 It's not a waste of time. You just have to know what you're looking for, as with "real life" dating. Here's an article I wrote about my experiences and insights about online dating: http://socyberty.com/relationships/online-dating-your-soul-mate-is-only-a-click-away/ It’s not a waste of time. You just have to know what you’re looking for, as with “real life” dating.

Here’s an article I wrote about my experiences and insights about online dating:
http://socyberty.com/relationships/online-dating-your-soul-mate-is-only-a-click-away/

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